So, not knowing your hair and skin regimen is "intolerable"? I have black (or is it Black?) friends, and have had a few relationships with black men, who've complained about ashy skin but I have no idea what they do about it. Why should I? It's none of my business and I wouldn't be offended if they asked what hair shampoo or conditioner I use or why I wash my hair daily rather than weekly. But if I were asked, IT WOULDN'T GET OLD!