"I do not believe in neurotypical; I think this is just conditioning!"

So, I take it you're a neurologist or psychiatrist? And you disagree with current medical science- how very special.

ADHD Is a medical condition in which the brain develops differently than most. Its reality isn't questioned only the ways to treat it are. You have the mindset common in the 1960s and earlier, that's it's a behavioral problem with the child.

A (somewhat) general consensus is that it involves dopamine, which I assume a medical professional such as you are familiar with, and its uptake through receptors. Parents have often obtained a (false) diagnosis that their child needs medication and that has caused a great deal of confusion, similar to yours. Ritalin and Adderall are stimulants and can be abused. If someone who doesn't truly have any brain issue with dopamine uses those drugs, it gives them a 'high' similar to cocaine. If a person with ADHD uses them, it merely raises their dopamine levels to where they should be and produces clarity of mind and the ability to think critically; not a 'high'.

And what gives me such confidence? Extensive personal study, knowing doctors who specialize in neurological dysfunctions (all of whom ADHD be refer to as MND- minor neurology dysfunction, to state that it is a medical issue not psychological) and having a son who has ADHD and having that myself, and my mother and her father being ADHD, without ever knowing it, and my sister with ADHD who is a teacher of 'troubled' children, and her PhD in the field.

BTW, people with ADHD tend to be highly intelligent. But often have poor social skills. On numerous occasions, when my son was in school, I would be called in to meet with his teachers to discuss his 'misbehavior'. The complaint- he had a bad habit of correcting a teacher when the teacher was wrong about something she or he told the class. Because he knew more (in those narrow cases) than the teacher and that left them embarrassed in front of their students. I repeatedly told him to not correct his teachers in that way, even when he was right, but to wait until class ended. But that just left him bored with the teaching since much of it he already knew.

Being bored in school was my biggest issue in K-12; I was always far ahead of my classmates, so I ended up with the nickname "Brain", which embarrassed me, and they expected me to always have the answers. Which I usually did but not always. I read the year's text books in the first two weeks of school, to refresh what I already knew, and with the exception of mathematics, nothing in school was a real challenge for me until senior level college courses. When in school, I constantly "dumbed myself down" to get along with most of the other students. I'm sure you fit right in with the crowd, though.

And you have quite a few professionals who agree with you- that's fine, even professionals don't all agree. But since far more take my stance, they can disagree to their heart's content. That's called "science".

Also, "It is good to think for yourself with (more or less) a whole mind"- yes, it is. Give it a try sometimes, it may just open your eyes to something new :)